Final Resolution Update of 2015

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Fail at updating my blog. Fail at updating resolutions. But I think I did knock a few more out since June.

Twelve months down, zero left. That makes a year.

Work & Professional Development
PMP Certification – FAILEDPMP application submitted, January 23. Approved, January 29. (Now I just have to take the test.)
ITIL Certification – FAILED Developer Certification – ACCOMPLISHEDThey changed this certification this year, I got a Salesforce App Builder certification instead, November 20. I also got a Salesforce Sales Cloud Consultant certification, November 10.
Security+ Certification – FAILED
Have everyone on my team get a Salesforce certification – ALMOSTTwo people on my team have certifications. Two do not.
Attend Dreamforce – ACCOMPLISHEDAttended Dreamforce, September 15-18. It was amazing.
Find a better system to manage projects – ACCOMPLISHED – TaskRay installed in Salesforce org, April 2. 
Have someone in my company create a real quote for actual products in our Salesforce org and send it to a customer (as in, launch “Phase 2” of our Salesforce project) – ACCOMPLISHEDDone. Finally. October 23.
Present something at a conference – FAILED
Start a Salesforce user group (either locally or one for my company’s suppliers) – Started a group on the Salesforce website, February 28. Started a one on Meetup (well Jeff did, but I helped invite people to join), November 15.
Apply to grad school – FAILED

Improve Social Life
Host a dinner party – FAILED
Host a brunch – ACCOMPLISHED – Hosted a brunch, July 4.
Host a poker night – ACCOMPLISHEDPlayed poker at John’s house after the Kentucky Derby, May 2.
Host a wine tasting – FAILED
Host at least three visitors in my guest room – ACCOMPLISHEDStephen in town, March 21-26 and April 3. Kerri and Leah, May 22-25. Regina, July 23-27. Christina and Jon, July 31-August 2. Courtney, August 7-8. Mom, August 26-28. Aunt Debbie and Lee, September 5-7. Dad, October 9-11. 
Host a crab party – ACCOMPLISHEDHosted a crab party, July 25.
Make some actual NYE plans – ACCOMPLISHEDHaving a NYE party @ John’s later, December 31.
Go to more events and less bars – ACCOMPLISHED
Invite people out that I don’t normally spend time with – ACCOMPLISHED
Make more friends who are girls – ALMOSTI’m working on it. I’m also accepting that maybe I just always have and always will get along better with guys.
Play poker in real life with human beings (as opposed to on my phone with other people’s avatars) — ACCOMPLISHED –  Joined a poker league, February 6! Now I can play poker with real human beings once every three weeks. 🙂

For My Well-Being
Complete this 30-day yoga challenge – ALMOSTI did about half of it before I got sick in February and then never started it up again.
Mentor a child through The Up Center – FAILED
Volunteer for something – ACCOMPLISHED – I volunteered my time making this website for my friend Casey’s non-profit over the summer and in the fall.
Feel confident about my appearance in a swimsuit by February 10 – Pretty much accomplished. I bought a bunch of one-pieces and tankinis, and I ended up wearing my bikinis anyway. Then I got so sick, I lost like six pounds, so that counts, right?
Have a vegetarian week – FAILED
Run in a race – FAILED
Try a juice diet – FAILED
Post a series of gluten-free recipes – FAILED
Get contacts or prescription sunglasses – FAILED
Figure out why my eyes are so red and puffy and sensitive all the time/fix it – FAILEDI figured out why, but every doctor just says that it’s a chronic condition that will come and go, and there’s not much to be done. 🙁
Ride my bike at sunrise as many times as possible when it’s warm enough – FAILED
Cut my hair or stop using it as an excuse not to exercise (as in, “It takes so long to blow dry…”) – ACCOMPLISHEDI stopped using it as an excuse and I had Tori cut a lot more layers in it, so it takes less time to dry anyway.
Write a really nice post about Mele when I’m ready – FAILED

Visit Aunt Kim & Uncle Franky in Pennsylvania – FAILED
Spend a whole week in New Jersey – ACCOMPLISHED
Visit Nicole in Texas – FAILED
Visit my brother in Jacksonville and take a road trip down the coast of Florida to Key West – FAILED
Taste wine at some vineyards – FAILED
See Mayan ruins – ACCOMPLISHED – Saw the Tulum Ruins, February 15.
Put feet in Mediterranean Sea – ACCOMPLISHEDPut feet in Mediterranean Sea, April 14.
Take photos of a lighthouse- ACCOMPLISHEDTook photos of two lighthouses the night we went out on a dolphin cruise in Virginia Beach, August 2.
Shop at the Lilly Pulitzer Warehouse Sale – FAILED
Go back to Hawaii – FAILED
Go back to Las Vegas – FAILED
Go on at least three cool weekend trips – FAILEDFour trips to NJ do not count.

New Things to Do
Take pictures of pelicans with my telephoto lens – ACCOMPLISHEDTook photos over the summer from Chris and Terri’s boat.
Learn how to use new sewing machine – FAILED
Sew myself a dress – FAILED
Learn to play the ukulele (at least one song) – FAILED
Shoot a gun – FAILED
Roast my own coffee – ALMOSTHelped someone else roast coffee one lovely afternoon in October.
Create a book of my Instagram photos and send it to my grandparents – ACCOMPLISHEDGave them a book of Virginia Beach photos for Christmas, December 24.
Find a creative way to keep area around coffee grinder clean – ACCOMPLISHED I’m not sure this is creative, but I wipe off the counter once per day with a paper towel or my hand.
Paint something cool with watercolors – ACCOMPLISHEDIt wasn’t with watercolors, but I did paint a mermaid at The Mermaid Factory with my mom, August 27.
Make some kind of homemade liqueur (maybe this one?) – ALMOSTI got halfway through the recipe. The mason jar is still sitting on my counter. I was supposed to finish it back in May or June or something.
Take a dance class – FAILED

Stuff I’ve Been Putting Off
Go through pictures from Hawaii/write a post about trip – ALMOSTI went through some pictures and made John a photo book from Hawaii (and one from Barcelona) for Christmas, but I didn’t write a post.
Back up all data and sell old computer – ALMOST – I backed up the data, but I didn’t sell the computer.
Get vintage Lilly Pulitzer dress hemmed/altered in time for Tulum trip – ACCOMPLISHEDTechnically accomplished because I had this dress altered, and I picked it up February 8. But the lady kind of messed it up, so now I need to take it back.
Finish barstools – ACCOMPLISHEDBarstools complete, January 1.
Post a “how to” about editing photos on an iPhone – FAILED
Find a way to display some of my Instagram photos in my house – FAILED
Frame all of my new Cassidy prints and the pelican print I bought last year – ACCOMPLISHED
Start a new business – ACCOMPLISHED
Post in this blog more – FAILED

The Usual
Go horseback riding – FAILED
Go ice skating – FAILED
Go surfing – FAILED
Attend a few good concerts – ACCOMPLISHEDHullabahoos @ The Sandler Center, January 9. Reel Big Fish/Less Than Jake @ The Norva, January 31. Andrew McMahon in the Wilderness @ 17th Street Stage, May 30. Zac Brown Band @ Farm Bureau Live, June 5. Idina Menzel @ Chrysler Hall, August 26. Reel Big Fish and The Pietasters @ 24th Street Park, September 5. The Killers and The Foo Fighters @ Dreamforce, September 17. Streetlight Manifesto @ The Norva, October 23. The Legwarmers @ The Norva, November 31.
See a few good plays – ACCOMPLISHEDSalome @ Harrison Opera House, February 3. Legally Blonde, The Musical @ The Sandler Center, April 18. Orpheus in the Underworld @ Harrison Opera House, September 27. The Little Mermaid @ The Sandler Center, October 3. Catch Me If You Can @ ODU University Theater, October 24. La Boheme @ Harrison Opera House, November 10. A Christmas Carol @ The Sandler Center, December 5. The Nutcracker @ The Sandler Center, December 18.
Read at least 10 good books – ACCOMPLISHED – Villa Incognito by Tom Robbins, Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed, A Little Princess by Francis Hodgson Burnett, The Mystery of the Crimson Ghost by Phyllis A. Whitney (you can purchase this classic gem for $.01 on Amazon…), And One For All by Theresa Nelson (end phase of reading favorite books from age 13), The Lean Startup by Eric Ries, All the Single Ladies by Dorothea Benton Frank, True Believer by Nicholas Sparks, The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins, Go Set A Watchman by Harper Lee, Polish Your Poise with Madame Chic by Jennifer L. Scott, Murder in Mount Holly by Paul Theroux, Maroon Rising by John H. Cunningham, Foundation by Isaac Asimov. (I kind of lost track because I borrowed a lot of books from Amazon, so this probably isn’t a complete list.)
Make a new resolution every month: FAILED
January: Stop fiddling with my resolutions in Evernote, and put them on my blog where they belong – Posted, January 18.
February: (Nicole said this counts, so I’m posting it.) Pay off my car – Paid off, February 21.
March: Plan trip to Spain, and grow more trees than Jeff – FAIL. Never planned trip to Spain. Just did a bunch of stuff when we got there. Growing more trees than Jeff was a pretty stupid resolution.
April: Fail.
May: Fail.
June: Uh…I don’t even know. I’ll be happy if I write another blog post before July.

Totals: 32 ACCOMPLISHED, 7 ALMOST, 36 FAILED. Pretty consistent with most years, and setting goals you may not be able to accomplish is important. 🙂

Happy new year!

The Year in Review

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Twelve years ago, I found this questionnaire, and I’ve been filling it out every December since. See? 2014, 20132012, 2011, 2010, 2009, 2008, 2007, 2006, 2005, 2004 and 2003. Last year, I decided I’m going to add a few new questions every year from now on. Last year, I added a few more questions, and those are still marked with an *asterisk. This year, I had a hard enough time filling this out, so I didn’t add any more.

There’s something I should add as a preface to this year in review: I didn’t really have a great year. I mean…I had a successful year, but it wasn’t really that great. I know, I know. You follow me on Instagram, and my pictures are colorful. The beach is pretty, and I have lots of brightly colored outfits. But my year got off to a rough start. My cat died. A good friend person who never deserved to be my friend in the first place turned her back on me and never told me why, which made me really, really sad for awhile. I got food poisoning in Mexico and was sick for a month. I got behind on things and overwhelmed at work, and basically sacrificed my entire personal life for months on end to get a project done. I got frustrated with myself…a lot. I didn’t sleep many nights because I was stressed out and anxious. I got depressed. I felt lonely. I lost interest in a lot of things I used to love for a little while. I apologized to everyone over and over for no good reason, just because I felt out of place in my own life a lot of the time.

I’m not perfect. My life isn’t perfect. I’m really successful at what I do. I’m really smart. But I’m not always happy, and I know that I don’t always have control over that. Unfortunately, every medication I’ve ever taken for anxiety has made me gain lots of weight, so this time (like many others), I’m choosing to just wait it out and see what happens. What I do know is that I’ve been through this before. And usually right around the time it gets this bad, it starts to get better. So I’m looking forward to that.

Anyway, here’s my year in review.

What did you do in 2015 that you’d never done before? Visited Europe, made friends with a spider, played in a poker league.

Did you keep your new years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year? As usual, I kept lots, but not all. I’m working on my 2015 list — it’ll be my 13th straight year posting resolutions on this blog.

Did anyone close to you give birth? No.

Did anyone close to you die? Yes. My cat, Mele, died on January 12. 🙁

What countries did you visit? Mexico and Spain.

What would you like to have in 2016 that you lacked in 2015? A co-working space in Virginia Beach that serves delicious coffee and speedy wi-fi.

What date from 2015 will remain etched upon your memory? July 1st — started a business.

What was your biggest achievement of the year? Launching a quoting system in Salesforce, passing my Salesforce Sales Cloud Consultant and App Builder certification exams, making some websites, growing Roma tomato plants that are still (sort of) alive and almost eight feet tall.

What was your biggest failure? Spending a whole bunch of time feeling anxious and depressed and like a big failure, even though I’ve been pretty successful at everything I’ve done. Eating wheat and gluten even though I know for a fact they make me feel bad.

Did you suffer illness or injury? I got food poisoning in Mexico in February, and I was sick for a month. And my ankles have been bothering me on and off since April — I should probably get that checked out.

What was the best thing you bought? These Ferragamo Vara pumps I’ve been wanting for almost 10 years.

Whose behavior merited celebration? Pretty much anyone who had to deal with me during a moment of panic, anxiety, or complete and utter lack of confidence this year. I don’t have a huge network of friends, but the few I have have been pretty amazing to me this year by accepting me even in my crazy moments, and I’m really grateful for that. Also, a few smart people on my team at work who I was able to count on this year to do some pretty amazing things and solve some pretty complicated problems.

Where did most of your money go? Rent, 401(k), investments, HSA, savings accounts, lunch.

What did you get really, really, really excited about? Friends and family coming to visit me over the summer. Antoni Gaudí once I got to Barcelona. BB-8.

What song will always remind you of 2015? Cheerleader by Omi. It seems like this came on every five minutes over the summer. It’s catchy, and it does make me smile when I’m in a crappy mood.

Compared to this time last year, are you:
Happier or sadder? Sadder
Thinner or fatter? About the same
Richer or poorer? Richer

What do you wish you’d done more of? Running, reading for fun, taking photos, relaxing.

What do you wish you’d done less of? Worrying about what other people think, apologizing for nothing.

How will you be spending Christmas? I headed up to New Jersey for Christmas, as usual. I spent Christmas Eve at my grandparents’ house with my parents, aunts, uncles and not-so-little cousins. ALL of us were there for the first time in a long time. My mom made a gluten-free version of my chocolate peppermint cake, which was delicious. I stopped at Regina’s after that and caught up with her and her parents and and old friend of ours from high school and his boyfriend. On Christmas morning, I opened gifts with my parents and my brother, and we had my grandparents over for dinner. My dad made gluten-free cheese dumplings for the escarole soup! Then we went to see Star Wars (it was my third time). On Saturday night, we went to my dad’s cousin’s house for dinner to catch up with his side of the family. I spent a few more days in NJ shopping with my mom, catching up with Kristy and Sadie over breakfast in Asbury, and watching the other six Star Wars movies with my brother and my dad. 🙂

Did you fall in love in 2015? No.

How many one-night stands? None. I should just delete this question. I’m probably never going to have a one-night stand.

Who were your best friends? John, Kristy, Regina, Jeff, Michelle, Tina.

What thing did you do that was meaningful to others? I worked a lot, and I’m assuming that was meaningful to people. I hosted a few visitors over the summer, and they all seemed to have a lovely time. I showed some people how to use the Photoshop and Evernote apps on their phones — people really seemed to like that. I helped a lot of people with their technology and Salesforcey things both in and out of the office.

What was your favorite TV program? The Man in the High Castle, Jane the Virgin, Big Brother.

Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year? Kind of, a little.

What was the best book you read? Foundation by Isaac Asimov.

What was your greatest musical discovery? The Tallest Man on Earth

*What was your favorite meal? It’s a toss-up between my birthday dinner at Toto in Barcelona (April 10) and dinner at 5A5 Steak Lounge (September 18).

What did you want and get? A palm tree.

What did you want and not get? To stay on the third floor at work.

What was your favorite film of this year? Star Wars: The Force Awakens. I went to see it three times. I might go see it once more.

What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? I was 34. I was in Barcelona with John. We had coffee. We strolled around the Gothic Quarter. We had lunch at this colorful market. We had dinner at Toto. We had drinks at Boca Chica.

What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? If more people said “thank you” to me for all my hard work…the way they did all the time last year.

What kept you sane? Coffee, Evernote, beach days, boat rides, summer visitors, a few smart people, poker, gin & tonics, podcasts, playing solitaire on my phone.

Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? Do my favorite podcasters count? Alex Blumberg, Jeremy Ross, John De Santiago, and Gillian Madill.

What political issue stirred you the most? Donald Trump is ridiculous.

*What mystery from 2015 was never solved? What the hell happened to this Brooks Brothers tunic? Where did it go?

Who did you miss? Grandma Tillie, Mele, and Jessie.

Who was the best new person you met this year? This John.

*Did you start any new traditions this year? I don’t think so.

Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2015: I should really stop underestimating myself.

Quote that sums up your year: “Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose.” ~Yoda

Daily Survey #3

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Goal: Blog more.

Strategy: Daily survey.


Coffees consumed: 2.5

Gluten-filled items consumed: 0

Dumbest thing I did today: Dropped my phone and shattered the shit out of it. Again.

Interesting thing I found on the internet: Famous quotes, the way a woman would have to say them during a meeting. I avoid this at all costs, but I still do it sometimes.

Interesting thing I found not on the internet: Flowerbox = delicious cocktail.

Scariest thing I did today: Gave someone advice about their future.

Something I learned today: Taking the blame is a good thing.

Did anyone ask when I was going to have kids, get married or move in w/boyfriend today? No!

Assembly + Enlight of the day:


Something I accomplished: Team began deploying change sets into production for 18-month-old quoting in Salesforce project.

Song of the day: I’ve Set Sail, Toh Kay

So, yeah.

Daily Survey #2

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Goal: Blog more.

Strategy: Daily survey.


Coffees consumed: 2

Gluten-filled items consumed: 0

Dumbest thing I did today: Talked too little at lunch. Talked too much at dinner. #sociallyawkward

Interesting thing I found on the internet: Elizabeth Holmes Discusses Theranos at WSJDLive 2015. Someone asked me if I thought she avoided answering the questions or if she was being really defensive. Not having read the article they’re referring to, my intitial thought is no, I do not think either one of those things. I got the impression she made a bunch of statements she had prepared ahead of time, was a little nervous being on camera, and had difficulty dumbing down all her technical jargon for the interviewer or the average viewer to understand.

Interesting thing I found not on the internet: Hamilton Perkins Collection. (Yes, this is a website, but I saw the products in real life and met the owner in person, so this counts as “not on the internet.”) Also, a random abandoned cake on the boardwalk.


Scariest thing I did today: Networking event. #socialanxiety

Something I learned today: You can not deploy Salesforce managed package permissions granted via permission set in a change set. You have to either load them in from a file after you deploy or re-create them manually.

Did anyone ask when I was going to have kids, get married or move in w/boyfriend today? Yes.

Assembly of the day:


Something I accomplished: Met about 10 new people. 🙂

Song of the day: I Think UR a Contra, Vampire Weekend

To be continued.